I don’t know what I want to do with my life.
This is one of the most terrifying thoughts I have running through the back of my mind. Day in and day out.
Simultaneously, everyone I know seems to have their lives figured out – Masters, Graduate schemes, careers, engagements and travels. And they’re happy to an extent. While I’m walking an unset path with this heavy sense of shame of falling behind.
A good friend told me to start with my interests, passions, things that I enjoy and go from there. I’ve been contemplating a lot whether to go back to university and study again. But there’s a part of me who is also afraid of graduating at 25. Is it too late? Would I be too old to compete with other grads at this age? Tuition fees aren’t exactly cheap. If I make the wrong choice I’ll be plunging into a pool of student debt.
You could say that I’m making excuses for myself – That I’m avoiding commitment. But at the moment I’m afraid of so many things that I can’t even begin to list. Nothing in life will get any easier. Hopefully, I will get better at dealing with all the inevitable crap and regrets that come along with the future. At the moment, I’m working on the courage to move forward.
I’m a WINNNNNNNER. Now crown me, minions.
What do you mean that’s not how it works?!
Joking aside, as you can tell, I’m very excited and honoured to be nominated for the “Brotherhood of the World” Award.
Massive thank you to the brilliant Nancy Wang for the nomination. Nancy’s blog is a sassy mix of everything stylish! Reviews or DIY projects, you name it and she’s got it (perfectly photographed too). She also has an adorably chubby cat called Chloe who is too cute for words on Instagram. Definitely drop her a visit!
So here’s rules to the award:
1) Thank and link back to the person who nominated you for the award.
2) List the Rules and Display the Brotherhood of the world Award logo to your post and/or blog.
3) Answer the questions set to you and then you may create your set of questions for your nominees.
4) Nominate other bloggers and let them know about the award.
1)What’s your morning routine?
GYM. I’ve just taken up working out every morning and it’s the best way to wake up. Trust me. One hour and it keeps me hyped for the rest of the day! If you’re running short on time try a Blogilates video – The Call Me Maybe Squat Challenge is one of my favourite fitness challenges.
2)What’s your favorite Fiction Book ?
Harper Lee’s To Kill A Mockingbird hands down. It’s the only book that I’ve read over 4 times at fourteen (for exams) and has taught me countless of lessons since then. It demonstrates that majority rule is not necessarily always right, our justice system is horribly skewed, and that whatever action we take we must first ask our conscience and moral compass.
3)If you can give ONE advice to your younger self, what would it be ?
Please listen to Mum. She knows best. If you work that bit harder right from the very beginning, like she said, you would have made our life a lot easier.
4)Which movie you can watch over and over again?
This film has the best Disney soundtrack on the face of the Earth. It’s a light hearted with beautiful animation, powerful and hilarious characters that just perks up any rainy day in.
5)Do you have a role model? If yes, who is she/he and why she/he is your role model?
That’s good question. I don’t even know the answer. I don’t have a single role model but rather a group of influences that I heavily admire and aspire towards. From my family, my parents, their relentless hard work and sometimes irritating sense of compassion and patience towards to even the very rudest of people. My sister’s charming charisma and organisation.
Barack Obama. Wait what? Where did this come from? I’ve been reading his first autobiography and I’m amazed by his determination to do right, bring justice and hope. The odds may be stacked against your favour, but that only means you should press harder. Don’t quit and you can change the world in your own way.
Now it’s time to set my own questions for my nominees who are:
Steph from Hoppy Cow
Fabrizio and Fabiana at London Life and Style
- What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten?
- What’s the best joke you’ve heard?
- What’s the worst/silliest thing you did as a kid?
- Do you have any phobias?
- If your life was a movie, what genre would it be and who would you cast to play you?
Have fun following 5 Step Programme my dear nominees! Looking forward to your answers hehe.
Anyone else that feels like hitting up these questions, lemme know in the comments.
In the name of the Brother Hood of the (Blogging) World!
I am an immensely shy person. No kidding.
I also moult like a cat when I’m in serious need of a haircut. That was probably too much information. But I promise you this grotesque over sharing is completely relevant.
Growing up, I would wait until my older sister would get a haircut just so I could avoid going alone to the hairdressers. Talk about first world problems but that’s how socially inept I was. The idea of making awkward small talk filled me with complete and utter dread. Yet having endured years of my Asian mother’s “wok” style hairchop and the disastrous experiences of my hereditary scissor happy mentality – to get a haircut at home was not an option.
However, after months of looking like the Grudge when my sister left for university, I finally plucked up the courage to get a haircut alone. But this time I was mentally prepped and ready. Like any rational 13 year old, I wrote a list. A series of careful thought up questions that could keep my hairdresser talking nonstop for a good 45 minutes – the entire duration of one haircut. This way I wouldn’t have to keep up the conversation by actually talking. In my head my hairdresser was the interviewee and I was a journalist. For the introverted me, it like a new found power.
And that’s kind of how I got into writing. I have so much to say but, more often than not, I lack the confidence to speak up – unless I’m angry then all kinds of hell breaks loose. Paper scrunching, keypad warrior and timely incoherent outbursts of “AGREAAHFH” you get the drift. But through blogging, I’m slowly learning to share and develop these thoughts.
So tell me, why do you write?
There’s a lot of things I expect a five year old to learn at school. The alphabet. Some basic maths. And that launching booger missiles is a big unhealthy, finger-wagging, “no”. So when this article came to my attention, “Sex Education should start from Key Stage 1”, I was more than lost for words. Are we forcing children to mature before their physical and mental age? How could kids who have just grasped how to spell their own name, have the mental and emotional capacity to understand the concept of puberty, relationships and intercourse? The last thing on my mind over primary education were five year olds’ drawing what’s underneath Mummy’s skirt or Daddy’s pants. Describing the differences between a penis and a vagina. Let alone, find out how babies are really made. To feature and normalise these Sex Ed activities under “Childhood” feels somewhat, unsettling.
Yet our society is saturated with sexual images and messages. From tabloids and magazines of scantily clad women openly displayed on supermarket newstands, to the border-line soft porn “music” acts and videos on TV and Youtube, it’s difficult to argue that this growing myriad of hyper-sexualised content has no impact on the pre-maturation and development of children. Certainly, age restrictions exist and that, as American Apparel knows all too well with it’s latest seedy, Back to School campaign focus on “up skirt” shots of crotches and underwear, overtly explicit material is stringently monitored by regulatory bodies.
But here’s a slight problem. Sex sells. It’s attention grabbing and demands instantaneous reaction. It’s powerful because it draws on an intimate part of our lives and people are naturally curious, children more so. The effects of cumulative exposure from seemingly playful and subtly sexualised material (advertisements, video games, toys and even songs) ingrains strict gendered roles where the masculine “Adonis” like figure dominates weak and permissive women. What’s worse is that this glorified bias and objectification is increasingly prevalent amongst children and young people in social practices like sexting. A study by NSPCC found girls, when solicited by boys, send explicit photos of themselves and or at least parts of themselves bearing a boy’s name in black marker pen. Collecting these images becomes a form of social currency, a way for boys to negotiate popularity in a competitive “lad” culture. Claimed “ownership” of a girl’s body served as proof of sexual activity in a society that markets and elicits a nonchalant attitude towards sex and relationships.
The heightened glorification of sex in popular media creates and reinforces a warped environment where recognition and self value is measured on sexual desirability and a narrow standard of physical attractiveness. The worrying consequence is that children, without guidance, gradually internalise these fictional representations as reality or at least how it should be anyway. In fact, a 2013 survey, supported by the Southampton Rape Crisis, found that the average age that children first started watching porn was only 11 years old. Sex appeal and desirability are accelerated into ideals to be emulated. More critically though, it’s delivered as a shortsighted end and isolated from the wider context of relationships, consent and protection. As Pope John Paul II aptly highlights, “the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much of the person, but that it show too little”. The failure to show and properly inform children of these major factors leaves them vulnerable to the lopsided realities, which are constantly presented to them through popular media. This is why unfolding Sex Education from an early age, beginning with very basic anatomy, is imperative in modern society. The rose tinted glasses of preserving childhood is not only untenable but harmful for children in the long run. If we don’t overcome this stigma to socially discuss and teach sex, puberty and relationships, this role is left to a biased and over glorified media.
Public Health England
3. Why do we call some religions “mythologies” (ancient Greek, Norse, Egyptian, etc.) and others religions? Is this fair? What does this show about how relevant certain ideas are as society progresses?
Every religion is built upon internal mythological elements – take Mount Olympia, Ganesha the elephant headed Hindu God and Noah’s Ark as examples. What distinguishes ancient Greek, Norse and Egyptian “mythologies” to everyday beliefs like Christianity and Islam are the number of followers that continue to practise and uphold the faith. It’s not fair but that’s natural and I guess survival of the fittest in terms of religous groups and ideas as society progresses. Larger religions prevail and its principles are institutionally taught from a young age. While dead religions become eulogised into myths.
4. People often talk about the growing gap between the rich and poor. However, today’s poor (in the United States, at least) are much better off than most people (not just the poor) were a century ago. Does it matter that there’s an increasing gap between the rich and the poor if the standard of living for the poor keeps going up?
It’s great that the standards of living are improving for everyone. That’s societal progression. But it should never be a mask or deterrent from reacting to a widening inequality between the filthy rich and very poor. In the political playground, more often than not, wealth holds major leverage to indirectly influence the political processes towards the interests of the rich. For well filled tailored pockets, Washington D.C’s “K Street” is a lobbying gold mine for political clout. According to GreenPeace, oil billionaire barons, like the free market supporting Koch brothers channeled approximately $67 million towards a network of climate denial groups alone- essentially reshaping politics towards a low regulated libertarian society. Wealth inequality fuels and perpetuate this backdoor privatisation of democracy. It’s a never ending vicious circle keeping the rich richer and the poor poorer.